We humans like to make the simple things in life complicated.
Something as simple as a relationship. There’s no need to lie. Don’t second guess. Especially when one claims to be sincere in the relationship.
But what happens when personal interest comes into play?
You try to navigate thru it. Examine which is more important, fight for your values, and for the things you hold dear. Evaluate if you had given your best to protect/maintain the relationship. And all else fails, know when to quit.
Quitting a relationship isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a rational choice of knowing when to cut your losses.
Most people who end relationships have put thought into it before deciding to throw in the towel. Please don’t insult the thought process and valuation before concluding that we “give UP”.
Chances are, we are just cutting off losses, in order to make our lives less complicated than it already is without the said person.
Learn to let go. Don’t deny the hurt the person had given you. But don’t allow it to complicate your life further by not letting the hurt go as well.
“Forgive and Forget” means “forgive yourself and the person who hurt you, and forget the hurt they caused”. However, it does not mean you forget the window breaking incidents. As the adage goes, “Once bitten, twice shy, thrice a fool”.
Which brings me to another point.
Relationships are social experiments. We are constantly tinkering about with it, adding and subtracting, making microanalyses on the composition. But one thing is constant: The base of all relationships is trust.
Once trust is broken, it will take blood, sweat and tears to gain it back again. And the irony is no matter what you do, once trust is broken you can never restore it to it’s original form.